The start of break-up season was about 3 months ago. With school starting, relationships came to an end. Break-ups are hard, especially around the holidays. So, if you are struggling with a breakup, here are 15 reminders for you to help you get through the holidays:
Choose yourself. Work on yourself. Heal yourself. Be kind to yourself. Every minute you spend trying to prove yourself to other people is a minute that could be spent appreciating the person you’ve already worked so hard to become.
Maybe what you need is clarity. Distance. Some time to yourself. This is the kind of peace we all need sometimes. The kind that will give you the courage to clear your heart. Your mind. And soul. Don't be afraid of being alone. Trust your process. With isolation, everything you feel will sort itself out. I promise. -r.m. drake
Trust the process, Stop spending so much time worrying and carrying over the loss of a relationship, and realize that some things weren't meant to be. What's meant for you will find you, and what isn't will fade away.
Loneliness is the temporary price we pay for letting go of those who don't value us and waiting for those who do.
Forgiving them does not mean letting them back in. It means you’ve learned to accept the pain they caused and you’ve learned how to move on from it. And that's where that ends but also, that's where you begin. Now bloom. -r.m. drake
At the end of the day, you will see that never giving up on hope when you do not see yourself making any progress was not a mistake.
To walk away from someone you care about who cannot meet your needs is one of the bravest acts you can do.
Please, don't always be that person with a big heart who gives more than you get. You deserve good things too, you deserve care, good treatment, and support especially financially. Learn to know when to sit back and be treated well too. You deserve it.
You have a big heart for a reason. You stand out from the rest of them because you can endure more than you think you can. You are so strong and brave, even when your heart has been ripped apart and beyond recognition. Even when you have been left alone by the ones you needed most, you still got out of bed to face another day. You are the bravest of them all. A survivor who makes sure she's a thriver.
The ability to feel pain without letting it destroy you or someone else is a superpower. -Salwa Tambe
We can't change people. But we can love them in a way that helps them grow. And sometimes that means letting go.
Waiting for someone to act correctly is a disrespect to yourself. You’re compromising your worth just because someone can't fully afford it.
Trauma makes you tolerate a lot of things you don't deserve because you don't want to lose people. Healing makes you realize some people don't deserve to be in your life, no matter how much you love them.
The biggest lesson learned this year is probably to not give so much of yourself to people who will not do the same for you.
Don't fall into the trap of thinking that life, and you must always be perfect in order to be enough. Embrace the mess, the chaos, and the imperfection. The joy is in the journey, the beauty is in the smallest of moments, the rollercoaster is the magic, and the pursuit of more is enough regardless of how one day differs from another. Life isn't black and white and your growth won't be either. You can't squeeze it into columns of good and bad, right and wrong, success and failure. Most of the time we live in grey, a bit of this and a bit of that. But, on every day and in every season, our best is something that will always trick one box regardless of what it looks like. -more than enough
I hope you know how strong you are. Look how far you have come, this is just a bump in the road.
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